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Anger Management Counselling

People sometimes come to therapy or counselling when they feel that they can’t manage their anger. Some say they would like to stop feeling angry altogether.

Many have been given the message that it is not ok to feel angry and have developed ways of squashing down their anger, and are often not aware of how angry they are. Some people turn their anger in on themselves.

Some of us feel overwhelmed by our anger or fear it in others. But anger is a feeling just like any other. Anger can be our ally.   It tells us where our boundaries are and what we will and will not tolerate. We can to learn to take responsibility for our angry feelings and manage them well rather than act them out.

Anger can cause many different symptoms. It might affect how you feel physically or mentally, or how you behave.

It’s not always easy to recognise when anger is the reason why you’re behaving differently.

Unexpressed anger can lead to problems in relationships, violence, road rage, self- harm, depression and low self-esteem. Listed are some of the symptoms you may experience.

Physical symptoms

  • faster heartbeat
  • tense muscles
  • clenching your fists
  • tightness in your chest
  • feeling hot

Mental symptoms

  • feeling tense or nervous
  • being unable to relax
  • being easily irritated
  • feeling humiliated
  • resenting other people

Changes in behaviour

  • shouting
  • ignoring people or sulking
  • starting fights
  • breaking things
  • self-harming

Anger Management Therapy

Talking to a professional can really help.  Getting help for mismanaged anger can change your life.

The structure of the treatment programme depends on who provides it, but many approaches might include aspects of  cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), as well as counselling. Make sure any therapist you see is registered with a professional organisation, such as the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy, The National Counselling Society or other accredited body.